Since Sursum Corda will be having more dances here, I'll share my experiences so women can be informed before they go. I had high hopes when I arrived at the church for Adoration before the dance. Finding the entrance for the church was difficult, as most of the entrances were locked, and there was no signage. I ended up walking around the block a couple times, by myself, in heels, after dark. I was only able to find the proper entrance after following a couple of people. At first, the dance went well, with a couple of gentlemen asking me to dance. I quickly realized that even though the dance was advertised as being for people with no experience, that wasn't necessarily the case. I was a little disappointed to see that only the men were asking the girls to dance, but since everyone seemed to be intent on following traditional gender roles, I assumed the men I interacted with would actually act like gentlemen. After a short lesson before another dance, everyone on the dance floor was told to pair up. All of the men on the floor went out of their way to ignore me, and one even shoved me out of the way so he could get to the woman he wanted. I was the only women left alone. All of the "men" who were sitting in the area also ignored me as well. The only reason I ended up with a partner at all was because an extremely drunk man forced one of his friends to dance with me. The entire experience was beyond humiliating, and I left in tears. This was also the first time I'd dressed up since breaking up with my ex who constantly made snide comments about my appearance, so the rejection and callousness was especially devastating. There were some nice aspects, like the fact that cake was being served and there was free alcohol, but overall it was a terrible experience. Ladies, if you want to be treated like a human, stay away from these dances. Like most trad lads, the lovely not-so-gentle-men of St. Stan's and Sursum Corda don't seem to view women they don't want to spend time with as people. Hopefully the way I was treated was just a one-off, but this behavior is just embarrassing for Christian men, let alone Catholic ones. I will never have anything to do with a trad parish ever again. I thought the tradcath insanity was an online thing, but no, it's just how they are. I hope our current pope puts some restrictions on the Latin Mass, as these people seem to be a little full of the sell and unfriendly to outsiders. EDIT: Upon further reflection, most of the people who attended the dance showed up to Adoration beforehand. I was one of the only women present who wasn't veiling, as it's not something I feel called to do. I wonder if that had anything to do with the treatment I received. At least I didn't mention my demonic and controversial beliefs that women should have voting rights and bank accounts. I probably would have gotten a beatdown from the radtrad lads for that. 🤣🤣🤣🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮
